Valentines Day is a strange "holiday" to me.
It is some what schizophrenic.
For those in good (and maybe not so good relationships) is is a day of performance.
Things are expected and given and taken as a profession of love.
That is not a bad thing, because people need to remember to say I love you at least once a year, but if it has to be forced, why bother.
I have been on that side of the coin and it was not so bad, but my preference was surprising her with sudden gifts or flowers or diners, they were more real to me and said much more.
So yes I am a romantic at heart, but then there is the other side.
This is the side where one is no in a relationship or in a bad one and nothing happens and nothing is expected and if flowers are given, it is all "Pro forma" with nothing behind it.
That is very depressing and if you have no one, you think there is something wrong with you because you do not have anyone and that is depressing.
I suspect there are some very significant drinking binges that occur at this time because of this situation.
I said, I have been on both sides and now I am on neither.
How?
Love is.
I have 5 very special relationships with the opposite sex and none is romantic. Three will never be because they are married people, but their husband know and respect me, so it will not go there.
The other 2, I do not know where they are leading.
Both are special people and I am most attracted to who they are (or rather who they have become) in the midst of trouble and will not cause them any more until they are ready for a relationship again (if ever), but they are special.
The more important issue is that, If valentines day is a day to celebrate love (and not what its initials stand for, as we joke at STD clinic) then I have loved many times, some times accepted, some times rejected and some time torn asunder by forces way greater than either of us.
I can celebrate that,
I can celebrate that I look to give a little bit of my self (and in that, it means my love) everyday that I ow live. I do not need a special day to proclaim that, it is who I am.
6 comments:
HI JOEY-
Good pioece about the many "faces of love". I have worn them all as well. But now, and for 20+ years I have worn the same love face - feeling adored and honored - loved and appreciated - we need no holidays to celebrate - we are a celebration. I have a feeling that you are a very sensual, romantic, intense and passionate man. :-) I like that. You are loved.
Love Gail
peace.....
You are loved and give love on a daily basis...how much more romantic can one get? Beautiful post, my friend.
♥ Keep on loving! ♥
Love this post. We don't need holidays to celebrate and proclaim our love to our better half or love ones or even to ourselves. For , everyday is Valentine's day. Am loving myself , my family and everyone around me including my virtual world.
Happy Hearts day Joey!
I've never been a huge fan of the forced romance of Valentine's Day. It feels to fake for me. Celebrating love works though. :-)
my man and i have never celebrated valentine's day. we're both not really into it. but we do celebrate for our daughter...showering her with all the love. it's a good feeling.
oh, and my man went grocery shopping on valentine's day evening and came home with flowers and three varieties of chocolate coated foods.
oddly enough, it was totally unexpected and so wonderful!
i laughed all evening calling myself a cliche.
You are a rare treasure in these times. I hate fake and forced love gestures. The best ones have no price tag. You are a man comfortable in his skin. That is the most attractive quality by far. Happy Valentine's Day from your friend in Baltimore....
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